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How do you get over the fact that not everyone will like you? (lemmy.ca)

submitted 2 months ago by PerogiBoi@lemmy.ca to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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It’s obvious and you would be deluded into thinking everyone you interact with likes you.

But how do you feel it?

Context: I’m a course instructor and I get direct reviews on my lessons and around 95% of feedback is positive to very positive.

There’s less than 5% of my reviews that have real negative and non-constructive comments. Things like accusations of being incompetent or unprepared or full of shit, etc. They mention times I had technical difficulties or made a mistake (like giving an incorrect response)

Just by the numbers alone this is a very small minority overall. Yet these comments stick in my head and make me doubt my abilities.

So what are your strategies or ways you drown out this stuff?

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[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 3 points 2 months ago (1 children)

i like me.

everyone else is optional

[–] shinigamiookamiryuu@lemm.ee 2 points 2 months ago (1 children)

What if I don't like me?

[–] friek@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 months ago

I feel this comment in my bones.

[–] Mothra@mander.xyz 2 points 2 months ago

I remember I also don't like a lot of people and that's it

[–] Glasgow@lemmy.ml 1 points 2 months ago

70% of people are idiots so you're doing pretty well. Only 9/10 dentists can agree on a toothpaste ffs!

[–] toomanypancakes@lemmy.world 1 points 2 months ago

I go in assuming no one will like me and then I'm just pleasantly surprised whenever they do. Like, only 5% didn't like you? Not too fucking shabby, well done!