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People who can don't get mad and just go with the flow, how do you do it? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 11 months ago by hactar42@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Here recently it seems like everything just gets under my skin so quickly and easily. It's not that I get mad and take it out on others, it's just the fact that I'm constantly annoyed and stressed. Something as simple as the dogs tracking some mud through the house will just ruin my mood. I know some people who would just laugh it off and clean it up. Meanwhile I'll get pissed that I didn't wipe their feet and be mad the entire time I'm cleaning it up. This has nothing to do with the dogs, it just an example. Any number of seemingly insignificant things can trigger me like that. Like forgetting something at the store and having to go back. I would love to be able to go, "well that sucks" and just get over it.

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[–] hactar42@lemmy.ml 13 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I would say you are pretty spot on. I was raised by a narcissistic father, who always told me I wasn't living up to my potential. It's taken years of therapy to get over that feeling and it still creeps up from time to time.

I like the thought on should. I never thought about it that way before. Which is funny because that is what I always tell me kids. If they do something wrong I don't sit there and harp on them about what they did wrong like my parents did to me. I talk to them about how we can handle that situation better in the future. Guess I need to listen to myself more often.

[–] Ranivorous@lemmy.wtf 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Just wanted to add the easy to remember shorthand (came from a therapist on youtube): "Don't should all over yourself."