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I only know what you've told us: You specifically ignored the rules they asked you to follow when watching their children, they don't let watch their children (these two points might be related), and you claim to be "respectful of their batshit decisions".
If some randos on the internet can hear your disdain this loudly...
One single time I tickled my grandson's feet. Other than that all of the other rules they have placed I have been respectful of whether I agree or disagree and I am allowed to think of their rules however I want. Not sure where you are getting that I am just blatantly ignoring them.
This line right here:
Really sounds like you're bragging about breaking their rules. Are the absurd? Absolutely. What would have been the harm of following this rule? nothing. What was gained by breaking it? A small amount of dopamine for you personally.
You broke it because you could for no benefit whatsoever and are smugly bragging about it. Do you think you sound like the good guy in your story?
If you're not going to follow a simple harmless rules, why would they trust you to follow the important ones? It reminds me of the story of the grandmother that didn't believe the mother when she said her child was allergic to coconut oil and though it was "nonsense": https://rareddit.com/r/JUSTNOMIL/comments/7qmed5/you_can_come_over_again_when_you_bring_me_my (Spoiler, this doesn't end well for anybody)
I tickled his feet one time when they were out of the room and they have no idea it happened. Maybe I wrote that the wrong way, but I have never gone against their wishes otherwise, and I damn sure wouldn't do it right in front of them. You are blowing this way out of proportion. I only gave out information pertinent to the topic of the thread, and since I don't know you, and you don't know me, I really don't understand your point here. What are you trying to accomplish by judging me with a single paragraph of my story? Would you like me to add in the part where, when my kids were young their mom walked out on all of us and left us standing in a driveway as she drove off. I had three young kids that I had to take inside, feed, get them ready for bed, then get them up the next morning and get them to school and daycare, then get myself to work. You are trying to portray me as some gigantic asshole who doesn't respect my kids. I love my kids and grandkids, and no matter what you say or read off your Jump To Conclusions Mat(tm) will change that. I have always been there for them, end of story. This has been interesting, but I am done here.