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One person picks three (movies, restaurants, events, etc.) that they would be happy with.
The other person selects one out of the three.
Alternate.
We tried that. My wife said my hours of research into restaurants was "low effort" so now she picks three and I choose
You pick by aggregating multiple factors and weight them by probability.
She picks by vibe.
We do one more layer, so it's called 5-3-1.
Person A picks five options.
Person B eliminates two of them.
Person A selects one of the three remaining.
We alternate who gets to pick the five.
The problem is the catalog is functionally infinite. How can you feel like you're making a good decision if you don't exhaust a category?
You don't have to make a good decision. It's 20-90 minutes of your life, not a fucking career.
It narrows down significantly by region, for restaurants, and by time frame, for events.
Movies as a bit trickier, but you can ballpark that by genre and maybe "new releases" / "" / "criterion collection"
If you've got a big enough pool, you'll get plenty of crossover. "You just matched with a person who wants to go to a Knicks game, watch a horror movie, and dine out at Sopo Korean Eats" is going to get plenty of hits in Manhattan.
I thought we are just matching with a spouse or sig other on what to watch next?
Ah, I thought it was a dating thing
It probably works either way, but I want the local version.
My wife and I read like 4 baby name lists out loud in the car for our second kid but had much better luck with an app we found that had like 4k names, each person reads and swipes, and it shows you the ones you agree on.
Maybe it's a hammer and nail thing but it sounds good to me for choosing the shared "to watch" list.