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People whose parents have become fascist, how are you dealing with it? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 2 days ago by pep@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I have 2 GOP parents, one that voted Trump originally and one that did not. Over the last 9 years, I have watched them both travel down the MAGA pipeline to become visibly fascist. The parents who taught me racism was wrong and to have empathy for others, have become openly hostile about immigrants, Muslims, and even parrot the Nazi "great replacement" theory.

Part and parcel with this, they refuse to have any discussions about the facts -- like immigrants not stealing and eating people's pets. They won't hear it, they won't even engage in the conversation...they just get angry and loud the second they hear anything that doesn't fit into the Fox News narrative. Can you relate? How are you dealing with it in your relationships with your parents?

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[–] InputZero@lemmy.world 6 points 6 hours ago

Much easier said than done. Some people have a difficult time accepting that their children are adults with different opinions. My Dad still sees me as the little boy he raised, sometimes that's nice and I treasure it. Sometimes it's still the most frustrating thing in the world. I'm fortunate that my parents haven't fallen down the MAGA pipeline but they're definitely more conservative than they were 5 years ago. I couldn't educate my Dad on anything, he just doesn't see me that way. Mind you I don't have to, I'm fortunate.

My point being, for some people their relationship with their parents will never go both ways but that's okay. They're your parents and it's one of the relationships that rarely is symmetrical. My Dad is my father, I'm his son, and I've learned to accept the relationship we have (which is pretty good) rather than get upset about the few problematic beliefs he holds. For people who are not as fortunate as me, zero contact might be the answer. Sometimes it's okay to accept things that aren't perfect.