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If you found someone attractive, would you date them if you found out they were trans?
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That depends - am I only physically attracted to them? The answer is no, whether or not they’re trans. Am I also attracted to their personality? Then yes, whether or not they’re trans.
It helps that I’m bi.
Let's say the attraction is whatever that means for you - I usually have emotional and romantic interest in someone as the main driver of pursuing a relationship, and physical attraction is an important but secondary aspect - so when I say attracted I do mean that openly in whatever way you would normally feel attracted to someone.
Is your distinction relevant because you are asexual (or demisexual) but allo- or pan- romantic?
Being bisexual does help - I am bi as well, so it can be hard sometimes to imagine being straight - but I do think I understand the phenomenology of straightness well enough (it's not hard for me to connect with what it's like to not be attracted to something, and with changes in hormones I even experienced dramatic shifts in my attraction based on gendered traits).