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If you found someone attractive, would you date them if you found out they were trans?
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Would you feel differently about a post-op trans woman? I assume the hang-up is the penis on a woman?
Do you think a penis would be a deal-breaker even if it were feminine: soft, flaccid, more like an oversized clit than a penis? Would it change anything to know lots of trans women's penises don't ejaculate, but instead produce wetness like a cis woman would when aroused?
I don't doubt the gential preference, I just sometimes think straight men think of the female penis as being like a man's penis, and that's not usually the case.
To be honest, I'm not entirely sure. In theory, sure: the initial question assumed initial (presumably clothed) attraction. You've got the body parts I enjoy between the sheets. Let's give it a try!
But also, I'm a dumb human with dumb human hangups that shouldn't matter, but do. Maybe this person is everything I wanted and I could never turn that down; maybe there's a mental block I just can't get around despite my best efforts