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If you found someone attractive, would you date them if you found out they were trans?
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If I'm having sex with someone, and I'm very allo so that's my assumption going into dating, genital configuration is important to me. I like cock on masc-presenting folks, so chances are cis men are exclusively where I'll be wanting to date. If I were a little more bi/pan/ace, my answer would likely be different.
I guess the question that pops into my mind is how about a very masculine trans man who is either post-op, or uses a strap-on, would that be an option?
(My go-to example of a masculine trans man has been Buck Angel, but I really need a new example since that guy has always been an asshole and is currently becoming an anti-trans activist. It's hard when he was a trans icon back in the day, now he's an anti-trans icon ๐ซ )
Strap-ons don't really do it for me. As far as post-op, I am not really up to speed on how advanced these are, and how well they replicate a "homegrown" set. Full disclosure, I'm Aroallo, so my physical tastes take a much higher priority than emotional attachment and commitment. I would be a way better platonic friend than a "girlfriend."
Provided that the operations are perfectly done, my only hangup might be some remnants of my heteromisogynist upbringing. Do I want to feel like an alluring feminine mystery to someone who was never socialized with the "girlhood" experience, rather than "been there, hated it?" Maybe, and ironically I think that's more shallow of me than the genital compatibility.
That's a pity about Buck Angel. Haven't heard of him before. Idk if it's a self loathing mental health lashing out against your group thing (which I emphasize with, despite the clear harm) or a "pulling the ladder behind you" a la Blair White thing.