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Why are some so-called “safe spaces” so toxic? (lemmings.world)

submitted 15 hours ago by blackwitch@lemmings.world to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I once entered a “safe spaces” Discord server with literal flowers and stuff. It looked very innocent and welcoming and it was just for gaming. Turns out, they were making fun of their members on it, fake-crying to mock a depressed user, and kept telling the users to “let them see their cuts”. It was so disturbing. These were literal 18-20 year olds, too, and I was like 13.

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[–] dontbelievethis@sh.itjust.works 22 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Because people do everything to silence the pain in themselves, even if that means inflicting pain onto other people.

[–] blackwitch@lemmings.world 4 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Hmm, makes a lot of sense.

[–] Reverendender@sh.itjust.works 8 points 14 hours ago* (last edited 14 hours ago) (1 children)

I feel you. Case in point; I just got torn up in an autism community after saying I had some science ideas I wanted an objective take on to determine if they had merit. Apparently I was not qualified to have ideas because I’m not a professional scientist, so it’s guaranteed that my theories are trash right out the gate.

[–] ArgumentativeMonotheist@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago)

"I'm too afraid to think and share my observations and hypotheses for peer review so nobody should, else I'd feel challenged/incompetent and that's just too much for my little heart to bear."