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cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ml/post/35965987

this is a coworker.

to me a clear no, this person jokes about it and smiles. I can share her frustration with stupid job tasks, demanding clients, or having to get up too early, commute... I find her genuine and full of energy, I like working with her, she's sincere. I like that in people, she likes to help.

However, other 2 female colleagues have the opposite point of view: there is something that troubles her because she constantly jokes about death, killing herself due to some clients, waking up early...

We all agree she is so full of energy, my colleagues say she jokes about it constantly. I hear her joking about once or twice a day.

Am I being naive?

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[โ€“] wewbull@feddit.uk 2 points 23 hours ago

Depends if it's actually a funny joke.

A fixated mind might take an opportunity to blurt something out in a conversation.. It would be awkward, not really fit in with what's happening, and then the hiding reflex takes over. It gets played off as a joke to cover up what happened.

A active mind will dance and play with all kinds of ideas and sometimes will play with the concept of death, what it means and how bizarre the concept is on a lot of levels. Jokes will be throwaway comments that are at least mildly witty.