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Parents of Lemmy, would you have your kids keep the bedroom door open when the gender they were attracted to comes over? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by AmourDeFrance@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Growing up, I was always told that boys could come over if I leave the bedroom door open, and I see a lot with my friends that the girls would not be allowed to have boys over/in the bedroom/have the bedroom door closed or viceversa (boys with girls).

When I realized I may be gay and trans (masc), my parents were accepting and allowed me to have the door closed with girls because I was gay and still not with boys.

Then, I had a boyfriend and they said I could keep the door closed with anyone except my boyfriend.

Now, I'm nonbinary and bisexual. Would you allow your kids to close the door?

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[–] Vanth@reddthat.com 60 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I housed a teen for a while and my rules were anything had to be safe and with positive consent. I knew banning sex under my roof was a fools errand.

I also gave permission to use me as "the bad guy". That if they ever were unsure and wanted an excuse, they could say, "ugh, Vanth makes me keep the door open. Lame adult, amiright?" They used that at least once that I know of.

They're an awesome adult now who is far better at having healthy relationships than I was at that age.

[–] Tartas1995@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 3 days ago

Great job!

[–] fluffykittycat@slrpnk.net 5 points 2 days ago

That latter part is genius. I'ma take note