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Parents of Lemmy, would you have your kids keep the bedroom door open when the gender they were attracted to comes over? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) by AmourDeFrance@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Growing up, I was always told that boys could come over if I leave the bedroom door open, and I see a lot with my friends that the girls would not be allowed to have boys over/in the bedroom/have the bedroom door closed or viceversa (boys with girls).

When I realized I may be gay and trans (masc), my parents were accepting and allowed me to have the door closed with girls because I was gay and still not with boys.

Then, I had a boyfriend and they said I could keep the door closed with anyone except my boyfriend.

Now, I'm nonbinary and bisexual. Would you allow your kids to close the door?

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[–] Cherry@piefed.social 12 points 3 days ago (2 children)

You haven’t brought age and maturity into this discussion and it’s a big piece of info on scaling the answer. 14 no. 17 possibly.

Secondly there is the other minor to consider. As a parent it is my job to ensure the visiting minor is safe and comfortable so even if my child wants the door closed and I trust them it could still be a no.

There are so many variables here. It’s never a simple yes I would or no I wouldn’t. It’s a parents job to read the room in the literal sense here. You are a parent first before you are a friend and sometimes that goes against a child’s wants in the moment.

[–] sugarfoot00@lemmy.ca 4 points 3 days ago

Kids today have joysticks and xbox. Back in my day, we just had stick and box. We were definitely banging at 14.

[–] Admetus@sopuli.xyz -2 points 3 days ago

I see it as 'This is our house but lovemaking needs to happen elsewhere. The child moves out at 18 and does whatever they want.' Of course, the child prior to 18 needs to understand consent and the use of contraception.