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Parents of Lemmy, would you have your kids keep the bedroom door open when the gender they were attracted to comes over? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) by AmourDeFrance@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Growing up, I was always told that boys could come over if I leave the bedroom door open, and I see a lot with my friends that the girls would not be allowed to have boys over/in the bedroom/have the bedroom door closed or viceversa (boys with girls).

When I realized I may be gay and trans (masc), my parents were accepting and allowed me to have the door closed with girls because I was gay and still not with boys.

Then, I had a boyfriend and they said I could keep the door closed with anyone except my boyfriend.

Now, I'm nonbinary and bisexual. Would you allow your kids to close the door?

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[–] tehmics@lemmy.world 6 points 4 days ago

I wont cast a judgement one way or another on how to approach this, but just know that it is an incredibly common rule. Every girlfriend I had growing up had this same rule, or even more strict. For one I wasn't allowed in her bedroom at all when I came over.

It sounds like your parents are perfectly including your identity in their decision. I know from experience that the rule sucks, especially when you aren't even planning to do anything and just want to hang out in a comfortable space. But it is common, and quite reasonable considering how other parents might approach it.