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Clearly, that's why I hopped up on the downvote wagon with you, the truth is the truth, even if you don't like it.
What's ironic, is this guy (and the downvoters) seem incapable of recognizing that we are both right.
Exceptions, outliers exist, obviously, but that doesn't make the generalization not true. They are both true.
Look at the flipside, has anyone even see some tattooed, fit, charming guy with an old out of shape Karen on a back of his motorcycle? No? Why is that? Would that be because he can pull a fit, younger girl, or multiples of that?
None of this is new news. Railing at the system while using the system isn't going to change the system.
Instead of being bitter that you're starting position wasn't perfect, be grateful that the resources are almost universally available. You might not be able to get much of "A" but you don't need 100% of any of the like ~20 attributes that make you an appealing mate.
Like, dudes, the answers RIGHT THERE, how much closer would you be if you had worked on your skills instead of just bitching online or being bitter? So you have to work on shit, but guess what, WE ALL DO. Ffs. How's this so hard to grasp?