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what does it mean being nice to your coworkers to you? (linux.community)

submitted 2 weeks ago by vestmoria@linux.community to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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cross-posted from: https://linux.community/post/3368394

and how do you deflect prying questions about you and limit these rituals to 2 minutes instead of wasting 30 minutes?

asking as somebody who, if not on the spectrum, is socially awkward, likes solitude, boundaries and to be left alone (to do the job)

I still believe none of your answers is going to help me because neurotypical solutions don't work for me but I have nothing to lose with this question.

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[–] vestmoria@linux.community 1 points 2 weeks ago* (last edited 2 weeks ago)

I'm very introverted and to me any kind of question about me is a prying one: my age, where I was born, how long I've been living where I am. I simply don't get why I have to tell my coworkers about this, nor I understand why they get offended if I don't answer the question. If I'm fired or I quit I'm not going to see them ever again. Who cares?

I'm a nurse and at my hospital there are rituals that bore me but anyone else finds, apparently, great: after report, talking time, usually 30 minutes. They talk about boring stuff, are loud and obnoxious, I simply don't understand why adults act like this. I read to pass the time, but have to be there with them because we're officially working. This happens at least three times per shift: once more to have lunch (for whatever reason we ALL must have lunch together, even if it means not having your own chair) and after charting, where, once again, I must remain with them because that's officially working time. If I leave, have a seat in the pause room and start reading, I get yelled at, no matter than I can also hear the bell from there.

It gets very boring. God my new job cannot start soon enough.

I don't have the luxury of having my own working station.

I've started to do extra chores just not to have to hear them. It also reduces the chance of them asking me about me.