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Is this ghosting? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) by vfreire85@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've met this person and we texted for a while for a couple of weeks. I even asked if we could go out on our own to have a coffee together, and she accepted, but asked for some time to sort things out on her life (I know that she was studying for a difficult selection for a public position. Plus, she's a single mom). But I realized that I was starting and maintaining our interactions every single time. So I decided to give her some space, just to see if she would talk back to me. A day became a week, which became a month, and no sign of her. Did I ghosted her inadvertently, or she wasn't interested in the first place, or she's probably having too much happening in her life and I should be more supportive?

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[–] lowspeedchase@lemmy.dbzer0.com 19 points 1 week ago

Most relationships I've had in my life, both platonic and sexual, just sort of 'clicked.' I never found myself wondering about what was going on, most effort was recipricated without much thought. I would just move on. She directly communicated she needed space, she's not reaching out - I think the writing is on the wall.