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How afraid are you of talking to strangers in real life on a scale 1-10? (sopuli.xyz)

submitted 2 weeks ago by glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I say I am 8. Perhaps one could get used to it by practice. But I made bad experiences and constantly afraid of personal attacks based on ultra-quick judgment.

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[–] originalucifer@moist.catsweat.com 19 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

theyre just people, with possibly very shitty opinions. your issue is weighting their opinions disproportionately to your relationship with them (none).

if youre happy with yourself, other peoples attacks hold no power.

also, i like to keep the old quote in mind 'be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.' as it helps maintain perspective when speaking to people who could react negatively.

[–] glowing_hans@sopuli.xyz 4 points 2 weeks ago

Yeah, and attacks rarely get physical I guess, but somehow that always weights in the back of my mind as well.