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We accept that it's unhealthy to be a shut-in and never leave your house, never interact with others if you can help it, but equally unhealthy is this sort of toxic extroversion where the thought of being alone with yourself for even a few hours is torture to you. If this is you, clearly you have some shit you need to work out that you're avoiding. Take a week off from the internet and going out. Don't talk to anyone. Maybe go camping alone for a couple days. You will survive, and be much more comfortable with yourself for it.
What if you hate yourself but also aren't that sociable?
Figure out who you are, learn to love yourself, and change the things you don't like
ok but who is this about? sometimes people get bored alone but I've never seen someone dread it like this.
I have. Maybe it's unkind to say it but they're kind of a drain on everyone around them. They can't even go to sleep without a podcast or the TV on.
That second part feels unrelated. I know a lot of extreme introverts that need something going to fall asleep.
Maybe you will meet someone like that and maybe you won't I don't know what to say besides the fact that they definitely exist and you will know it when you see it.