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did you guys use another word in place of the subject when talking about a serious subject? (sh.itjust.works)

submitted 5 days ago by Tweekerz@sh.itjust.works to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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i remember my friends and i would say "he repented her" instead of sexual assault/rape because it was "lighter", and because some places like school may have banned the word.

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[–] Tweekerz@sh.itjust.works 2 points 5 days ago (1 children)

that’s fair. we did it as young teens because we couldn’t say “rape” but i get that it’s disrespectful

[–] deathbird@mander.xyz 4 points 5 days ago (1 children)

You could always say 'rape', even as a teen. Why do you think you couldn't?

[–] Tweekerz@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 days ago (1 children)

i meant at our school, we couldn't

[–] deathbird@mander.xyz 2 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Why? What was stopping you? Would you get sent to the principal's office or written up if you spoke normally about rape, but not if you used tiktok lingo?

[–] Tweekerz@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

honestly, probably. i don't know why i didn't, i was 14-15.

[–] deathbird@mander.xyz 2 points 2 days ago

I think when you're young it's especially easy to get cowed into following strange rules and patterns, even when the authority or consequences demanding that you do so are vague or unclear.

I guess I just find the use of psudo-homophones as euphemisms/codes for platform (or school?!) based psudo-profanity to be particularly weird. Like I get that an advertisement-dependent platform will want to de-prioritize content that discusses suicide because Frosted Flakes doesn't want to be associated with people killing themselves, and I also understand people wanting to be able to speak freely and be heard and therefore finding comprehensible euphemisms to use on ad-based platforms. I guess what I don't get is how it leaks over into unmonitored communication or even out into offline contexts. Actually I kinda do; it's basically Foucault's panopticon. But I don't think the solution is just to become ungovernable, but there is certainly utility in being able to recognize the tools that are used to structure your behavior and thoughts.

Idk, maybe that's too much of a tangent, but it's weird, right?