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[–] Nepenthe@kbin.social 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

because you (they?) have to also worry about losing potential romantic partners if people think you’re queer.

Honestly, it really shouldn't be a worry. Maybe it's me, but unless they're being really obvious about another guy's body, I can't think of a compliment that would give me that impression.

Even muscles, if the subject is in fact jacked, I would just think they're a really supportive person and like them more because of it. The insinuation about their innate personality would briefly grab my attention.

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Oh, completely agree. It's ridiculous for people to fear that reaction, and ridiculous for people to assume something based on a compliment. But it's one of those things that isn't going to change until we all just say fuck it and change it. I'm rooting for gen z to do this. Lol.

[–] Ataraxia@sh.itjust.works 1 points 11 months ago

Tell that to men that have been threatened or even had their asses kicked for doing that. A lot of men out there get violent when they think a man is hitting on them.