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[–] But_my_mom_says_im_cool@lemmy.world 48 points 3 days ago (3 children)
[–] brucethemoose@lemmy.world 6 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

This hurts as a Texan, but also rings true. I used to think we’re more “independent” minded than the South (as I have some scary Southern family), but every day since 2016 has opened my eyes more.

The murder made me think about how much I heard “fag,” racial slurs and worse as a kid, and how many stayed in the closet out of fear.

If you come, come to Austin! It’s better. Avoid Dallas, it sucks.

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 19 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I have a group of friends that I ride horses with who are wanting me to take a trip to Texas with them. I denied my invite, saying that I'd rather stay alive. As an openly gay, disabled woman who will be getting a total hysterectomy next month, I feel like I'd be vilified.

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

My partner is from Texas. We've been dating for a year and a half and I have yet to visit his family...

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 8 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I wouldn't blame you if you never meet them. I've known a couple people from Texas who moved across the country to where I'm at just to get away from it all.

[–] NikkiDimes@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

His mom and a couple brothers have come out to visit at least, so I've met some of his family. I'm hoping his dad will come out at some point.

I just feel really bad about not going out to their family events and what not. I was actually going to go last Christmas, bought a plane ticket and everything. I went to the airport gate, turned around, and went home and cried instead...

[–] LaunchesKayaks@lemmy.world 4 points 3 days ago

I wouldn't feel bad about it, especially if your partner isn't pushing for you to meet them. Sounds like the situation is a delicate one.

When I got back into contact with my father (who I cut ties with because he was a drunk/addict, was not mentally stable, and was absent and abusive), we met on my terms. Neutral ground and I brought my mom for backup. I cried so much before that meet and almost chickened out.

I don't really have any advice or whatever, but I totally understand the anxiety you feel. If you ever wanna talk about it, just dm me and I'll lend an ear.

[–] outhouseperilous@lemmy.dbzer0.com 0 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

No. My ass is a shit hole. Nobody's ever been killed over my ass.

Then again; I've never let a christian nest there.