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The redness of this flag is 100% dependent on his demeanor, it could easily go either way. If I'm working and a customer volunteers to help me do my job in a manner that is clearly not hostile or insulting I'd call that a good thing.
I would add that regularity and familiarity are key as well. How often does he do this? Is it at restaurants where he is a regular and knows them? If he's a regular who does this occasionally, probably fine. If he hangs out by the kitchen of every Applebee's or Cracker Barrel he wanders into, he's a serial killer probably.
These are reasonable follow up questions to ask, we do not have enough info
This would freak me the fuck out. Let me do my job, please and thank you. You don't work here.
He can be used as excuse for some shitty manager to fire someone "look how slow you are, the client had to come itself to take the plate. Don't bother coming back tomorrow"
This is the first/only good point I've seen here as to why this would be a bad thing to do regardless of legal liability or his demeanor or intent. Management don't need a legal or moral justification to be assholes.
I can't think of any way doing this regularly could be a good thing.
I can't think of any way doing this ever would be a good thing.
If the motivation is impatience, no, but I guess if you have a genuine desire to help people it could be a good thing.
as a waiter in a past life this doesn't really help a lot. i didn't double check your order, you are potentially in the way. if you drop shit you are fucking up so much i'd be kicking your ass out that door and you are on the list.
There's literally no way for someone to do this that's not hostile and insulting.
Per the post the boyfriend is doing this because he is impatient not because he is nice and trying to genuinely make the waitresses life better.
Both can be true though. He could be doing it because he's impatient, but doing it in a way that makes the waiter/waitress's life better.
Impatient =/= rude or hostile, per the post he's smiling with no visible indication of anger or displeasure, you don't have a clue what his motives are or how nice he may or may not be about it
Do you work in the hospitality industry?