Asklemmy

"evil" is usually reserved for people whose actions and/or beliefs reach such an extreme immoral high that they become impossible to defend. morality is a spectrum where objective and subjective lie on opposite ends and everything we do to ourselves, others, and the world can be placed along the spectrum. for example, nobody reasonable would argue against rape being objectively evil.

it seems you are asking if abusers are evil because of the trauma they cause their victims. this doesn't have a direct and clear answer, because it's ultimately up to each person who suffered abuse to make that call. of course you are welcome to your own opinion on how you see the abuser, but if the victim thinks differently then perhaps their perspective should hold more weight than yours. or does that matter? victims may forgive their abusers - does that mean society should? it's complicated.

personally, i think it depends on the abuse and trauma caused. some things feel worse than others. i'll always feel the way i do regardless of how a victim interprets the event but i wouldn't make them adopt my view of themselves or how i see their abuser. they have every right to enforce their morality within their own experiences.