This is why I avoid asking anyone out ever. I've got many problems and I can't solve them, I'd rather not burden anyone so I find it best to be lonely.

[–] OldSoulHippie@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Time is a good therapist. I think the pros outweigh the cons in these situations. There are plenty of people out there that do have the tools to be a good support system for people who need a little extra.

I had to come to grips with my depression and a few other issues during my marriage. It's made me a better person, and it forced me to put the work in. I did it for me, but I really did it for her. I love her so much and as cliche as it is, she makes me want to be a better person all the time. It didn't happen overnight but I feel like I'm always making progress.

Don't sell yourself short. You deserve to love and be loved

[–] SkingradGuard@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Don't sell yourself short. You deserve to love and be loved

Idk, I just feel incapable of it, I'm so far behind what is "normal" on that front that I feel like an aberration.

[–] OldSoulHippie@hexbear.net 2 points 2 days ago

I don't fit in with "normal society" either. You just have to find the others.

I'm not trying to be pushy or preachy, I just think anyone wanting to experience love should go for it. there are all kinds of people out there. Chances are there are a lot of people that feel the way you do, or people who are naturally good at lifting people like you up.