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Well, whether or not it makes you a bad person now is up to you.
Regret, shame, they're a great start, but they're not enough to make you a good person.
Number one is taking steps to make sure it doesn't happen again. Yeah, some of that is fixed by getting older and developing more. But not all of it. The proclivity to follow others alone is something you have to root out of yourself.
But a big factor is what you do with what already happened. Have you tried to make amends? Not everyone will want to deal with you again, and even those that will give you a chance might not accept any apologies. And you have to accept that, because an apology to make yourself feel better isn't an apology, it's a continuation of your abuse to others.
You fucked with people, now you gotta make it right.
Raise you kids better than you were raised. Teach them not to conform with the bullying schools encourage.