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Does this make me a bad person? (discuss.online)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by lriv724@discuss.online to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve done alot of mischievous and unkind things throughout my education time (k-12) I made fun of people, bullied people, stole from people/stores, hit people, kicked people, did things to annoy people, and just overall did stupid shit to cause problems all because it either felt cool or because I thought it was funny. Some of these were things I did because my friends did them, but some were just me being stupid on my own. I am now 21 and recently I have thought about all of this and feel awful about the things I’ve done because I know it has affected people. I wish I could go back and have never done any of it. Is something wrong with me? Am I a bad person?

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[–] softcat@lemmy.ca 27 points 2 days ago (2 children)

It sounds like you were a bad kid, but maybe you won't necessarily be a bad adult given this introspection. Something to bear in mind is that kids' brains and minds aren't entirely developed, often causing that kind of bad behavior- maturity is a real thing, and it sounds like you've begun developing it.

I think most people have things they regret from childhood and teenage years. I suppose the key is to be self aware and try to live in line with who you want to be as an adult.

[–] tomi000@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

Its important to note that maturity doesnt automatically come with the brain fully developing. The brain being developed is a requirement for maturity though.

[–] Noddyo@lemmygrad.ml 2 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I didn't need "maturity" not to bully, bash, break stuff as kid, did you? This maturity angle does not hold water.

[–] Azzu@lemm.ee 0 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

You were lucky to grow up in an environment not triggering your natural human evil.

The main reason I didn't bully anyone was because I was bullied myself.