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Does this make me a bad person? (discuss.online)

submitted 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) by lriv724@discuss.online to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I’ve done alot of mischievous and unkind things throughout my education time (k-12) I made fun of people, bullied people, stole from people/stores, hit people, kicked people, did things to annoy people, and just overall did stupid shit to cause problems all because it either felt cool or because I thought it was funny. Some of these were things I did because my friends did them, but some were just me being stupid on my own. I am now 21 and recently I have thought about all of this and feel awful about the things I’ve done because I know it has affected people. I wish I could go back and have never done any of it. Is something wrong with me? Am I a bad person?

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[–] stinky@redlemmy.com 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

stop thinking about yourself and think about the people you hurt. what do they want? would they feel better if you apologized, or worse? have you ever asked them? have you ever owned the damage you did? it's like you're asking us to make you feel better after you hurt someone else. make it about them, instead.

if there's a specific incident you can remember, consider approaching the person it affected and taking responsibility for it. pay for the thing you broke. apologize for the thing you said. be accountable for it, however they need you to be

[–] lriv724@discuss.online 3 points 2 days ago

I did steal from my brother before and recently I have paid him back. A lot of the things I did as a kid happened to other kids. I remember who they were but I wouldn’t know how to get in touch with them and apologize. But i just wanted to get other people’s opinions on the matter. That’s all