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how do I avoid becoming conformist, lazy and completely incapable of learning something new? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 4 days ago by sarah2653@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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In the last 4 weeks I've worked with several people over 60 and I don't like what I saw: slow giving report or describing a problem, fixation on trivialities about a client's appearance or something funny he did instead of getting directly to the point and doing our jobs, incapable of coping with new forms of communication, feeling they are your supervisor, even though they're not, criticizing you for 'wasting' paper or erasers, telling you how they dislike other coworkers, even though I just met this person 2 hours ago, acting as if only their way of doing things is the right one, then they pretend to be your friend and ask questions about your personal life which I deflect as good as I can.

I don't like working with people like this, it's very draining and I don't want to become this kind of person.

How do I make sure not to become this kind of person?

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[–] Shdwdrgn@mander.xyz 27 points 4 days ago

Since I'm 57 and have paid some attention to how I've changed over the years, perhaps I can add a little insight? Quite frankly, you get tired. I've been on the scene since the home computer revolution took off and I've seen so many things come and go. It's not that we can't learn new forms of communication, etc., but rather that after awhile you start asking yourself why bother when the "next big thing" is going to be another forgotten memory in 5-10 years. It's not you who are being criticized for wasting items, it's all the people like you over the years who have collectively wasted so much. Our brains remember all those things and they add up, causing us to fixate on the wrong info (although this last bit isn't really something that comes with age).

Last night I re-watched The Fifth Element. Afterwards I was thinking about when it first came out in 1997. My god, that's 28 years ago. I remember things from the 90's. I remember things from the 80's and from the 70's. I remember that after 9/11 the 00's were boring as fuck. But when you put all of that together, and start thinking about how much you've experience... holy hell that's quite a lot to face squarely. And if I tell you something inappropriate about a co-worker... what? HR will pull me away from the monotony and have a talk with me? Experience tells us what we can get away with, and sometimes it's fun just to see what people's reactions are.

So yeah, I've observed these things, but I refuse to be pulled down into misery and monotony. Keep yourself busy doing things that you enjoy. Never be afraid to go down the rabbit hole and learn crazy new things. I'm working on assembling a couple swords from parts, looking into bluing some steel pieces I made. And just this week I learned about "rust bluing" which is a crazy concept but is easy to do at home. I learned something new and fun, and I refuse to ever stop learning. I may not care about Instagram or Facebook, but I installed Signal on my phone and I love being able to create my own 3D models and printing them out.

The future is always amazing. Age doesn't make us care less about it, it just makes us more choosy in what parts are worth investing in. If you don't want to become a listless old geezer, then don't... all you need to do is keep enjoying the wonders of the world.