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[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 141 points 1 year ago (6 children)

The idea of “soulmates” or “the one and only” is inherently dangerous because it threatens the honesty of a relationship at a fundamental level. And what’s more important to a relationship than honesty?

[–] kittenbridgeasteroid@discuss.tchncs.de 66 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Right? Any relationship takes work to maintain, so expecting things to just magically work without putting in any effort is a recipe for disappointment.

Also, the whole opposites attract thing is kinda bullshit when you look at 40+ year marriages.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Opposites attract works for sex though. 2 aggressive tops or 2 meek bottoms aren't gonna have nearly as much fun as one of each.

[–] DharmaCurious@startrek.website 24 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Thanks to the local porn store, I have had many an eventful evening with another meek bottom.

... also my experience, give a meek bottom some kind of hardware and an opportunity, and they turn into nearly violent tops. Lmao

Absolutely scandalous

[–] NewAgeOldPerson@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Nice name, Dharma Curious.... I should have made Dharma Chameleon...

[–] captainlezbian@lemmy.world 9 points 1 year ago

I think opposites and sames are bad frames to think of sex and relationships. Aggro top and meek bottom are either a recipe for a wonderful night or a terrible one depending on communication and tastes. Likewise I’ve had good sex with fellow bottoms even though it might’ve been better had she been a top. Additionally a generous vers will find no better company than another generous vers. What works best is one’s complement.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I only date other bi switches.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I'm guessing you're in Canada based on your instance so I doubt it would go anywhere. If you're in the Bay Area I'd grab a beer/ slice.

[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

I don't consume alcohol or intelligent creatures, but if you're ever in Waterloo, we can have sex.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 0 points 1 year ago (1 children)
[–] jerkface@lemmy.ca 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You've confused switch for versatile but I'll fight you off for a while.

[–] eestileib@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 year ago

I'm all of it.

[–] Yewb@kbin.social 33 points 1 year ago (3 children)

Your not wrong but there is always someone out there that just gets you, difficult to find but they exist.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 37 points 1 year ago

Oh absolutely. My wife is literally the closest thing there could be to a soulmate. That being said, we both know that there are billions of other people in the world. There’s always an option to find someone else, so we always treat each other right.

[–] Mr_Blott@feddit.uk 13 points 1 year ago (1 children)

My favourite phrase -

Your not wrong

Lol

[–] Obi@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 year ago

Your not wrong

My yes right

[–] mriormro@lemmy.world 26 points 1 year ago

This is a meme about milquetoast christian dudes...

There's no mention of soulmates anywhere. Why is this relevant?

[–] OutlierBlue@lemmy.ca 15 points 1 year ago (1 children)
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[–] idunnololz@lemmy.world 7 points 1 year ago

Communication is critical but it's kind of related to honesty. You can definitely imagine a relationship where there is honesty but not enough communication or there is honesty but there is miscommunication without the issue ever being addressed.

[–] Wilibus@lemmy.world 0 points 1 year ago

Her skills in toaster operation seem pretty important given the context.