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Is it okay for a community like c/fauxbait to exist on this platform? (lemm.ee)

submitted 2 years ago by JeSuisUnHombre@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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This probably isn't the best place for this but something I want to have been mentioned.

Obviously porn in general is fine, even the more risqué or honestly even unsanitary isn't really a problem to me. And yes I understand all the women are of legal and there's verification. But isn't this still problematic? They're being sexualized for the reason of looking like they are too young to be sexualized. That seems like a great way to encourage pedophilia. It's a gross concept, especially given the median age on this platform.

And yes, I've blocked it for myself because I'm too old to want to see that when I'm scrolling /all. But I still think it's a bad message to leave out there.

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[–] mateomaui@reddthat.com 12 points 2 years ago (2 children)

Be prepared for a shock if you travel to some asian countries then. I’ve found myself uncomfortable that someone who seemed underage was trying to have a conversation with me, worried what bystanders might be thinking, only to be absolutely floored when it turned out she was my senior by a decade or more, with kids half my age. It took a while to adjust to that.

[–] jeffw@lemmy.world 12 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) (1 children)

I think this is just a common thing with other races. People are bad at guessing ages and bad at facial recognition too

[–] mateomaui@reddthat.com 1 points 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago)

Ummmmm… to a degree yes but also no. There's a subtle difference between just not being able to tell how young people of a population are, versus someone who is much older than you seeming so young that you're actually concerned about being thrown in jail.

[–] dandroid@dandroid.app 4 points 2 years ago (1 children)

My wife is Asian. She is slightly older than I am. But I'm a weird, bald dude, and she looks like a young teenager. When I think about it too much, it makes me feel self conscious while we are out.

[–] mateomaui@reddthat.com 1 points 2 years ago

I just think it’s funny now when people get mad at the expression “age is just a number” because they assume you’re trying to justify being with someone under and outside your “acceptable” age range, when it can be the opposite. I remember a lady commenting on me being out to dinner with someone and said something to the effect of me robbing the cradle in an accusatory way, and my date told her that actually it was the other way around LOL