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Is it too late to date for me? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 year ago by alphapro784@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Hi my fellow Lemmy users! It’s been a while since I used this platform and boy did I actually miss you all ❤️

It’s just that I’ve been more so focusing on myself in my career and in my own education. So I graduated back in June and man it sure does feel like a lifetime ago already. Settled in a good paying job and still trying to improve myself wherever I can.

This brings us to the question that I wanted to ask everyone here. As I’ve been very focused on academics and career stuff I never had the opportunity to date and I’ve been rejected very frequently (which is to be expected as a man tbh). I haven’t been able to lose weight and that I’m 25 years old.

I know that’s still pretty young but I still feel so behind on dating tbh. Is it still too late for me to find someone I want to be with after I’ve lost weight? Does losing weight help for men as it does for women? I’ve been trying to join meetups, volunteering (just to meet new people tbh) and really put myself out there. It’s just idk like all my friends are committed and I’m just floating around life whilst focusing on my career.

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[–] Octospider@lemmy.one 110 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'm not even saying this to be nice. You are 25. You're a baby. You may feel like you are old. But you are not. Not even close.

Ever hear the saying "youth is wasted on the young"? This is why people say it. Hindsight is gonna slap you in the face when you are actually old. You're fine. It's not too late.

[–] CannedTuna@sh.itjust.works 30 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Man I’m over here reading this post in my 30s like dude what? For real.

[–] lolcatnip@reddthat.com 18 points 1 year ago (1 children)

44 checking in.

[–] Sanity_in_Moderation@lemmy.world 10 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I want to punch that guy for throwing everything away because he thinks he's older than us.

[–] Kaefor@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 year ago

Late 30s, kinda want to dick punch him for implying I'm ancient 😂

[–] jlow@beehaw.org 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah, while I don't think it's ever too late to find love 25 certainly is, I was a bit younger but over twenty when I had my first relationship.

Also try to not focus too much on your weight. I know society(tm)/capitalism wants you to think you're unlovable if you're fat but that is obviously bs. If you want to loose weight do it but to it for yourself first (maybe try to get fit and not loose weight per se?). Love is not only about looks.