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This is another pretty good one. You sound so confident when taking my detailed point-by-point response and categorizing it as "nothing of value" and airily dismissing it, that you can keep the conversation going without needing to make any kind of response. Someone who's not reading critically will simply see it as "a disagreement" between two people who are being pretty disagreeable with each other.
Then, you're recapturing a little psychological edge by telling me what to do. If I obey, and respond to your question, you've set a good precedent to be able to just do the same type of thing again: Announce that I have failed, and nothing I said had any value, and keep the conversation going, making some firmly insistent counterpoints and talking down to me. It's easy for someone who reads your response to read the signals and come to the conclusion that I am the one that's wrong. If I refuse, though, it makes me look like I don't have a good response.
Excerpting only the part of my message where I was kind of a dick, and responding more or less in kind, is a really effective technique. You're choosing what part of my message is the part that's going to be featured in the ensuing conversation. And, if I call back to all the stuff I said that you didn't respond to, I sort of sound like I'm whining about it and trying to control the conversation.
Like I say, pretty impressive.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmVkJvieaOA
Damn, this really opened my eyes to the kind of rhetoric you see a lot in online discussions. Nice one
Innuendo Studios is gold. They have a new one up now, post-coup, that's pretty haunting.
You're not wrong. It's one among a couple of reasons I'm trying not to do so much sarcasm and meanness on Lemmy. It's a hard habit to break.
On the other hand, nothing about what I said was personal. I was pointing out the huge separation between what's real, and what they were basing their argument on. My experience is that replying to that kind of post at face value, and just doing a detailed factual rebuttal of it like you're doing a class presentation, is a mug's game, because they'll just come back at you with a bunch of firm insistence that everything you said is wrong. Bullshit asymmetry principle and all. I did so that a bunch of times early on. I've spent, honestly, days upon days in other internet forums doing it. So, in this comment, I gave the citations, explained myself in detail about why I thought the argument was dishonestly constructed, and also I was kind of a dick about it, also refusing to take part when they tried to seize the conversation and discard everything I said and ask a bunch of new questions, generally lay a new groundwork for our interaction in which they get to push me around and control what's judged right and wrong and what we're talking about, and I'm a big jerk somehow if I don't go along with it.
Was the way I did it productive? Honestly, I don't know. They did snap out of it and actually start responding in detail to what I was saying, though, after I did it for a few messages, so maybe there was something of value to it. Like I say, I don't think you are wrong that sometimes the way I do it is excessively mean.
It seems to me that it wasn't so much that they "snapped out of it" as that they were trying to argue in good faith from the start, and got sidetracked because of your antics.
The alt-right playbook is good stuff for dealing with alt-right people or those who employ similar tactics, but if you resort to that right off the bat without justification, then you're the one who's out of line.
You should use a carrot and stick approach. If someone is sticking to the facts, you stick with the facts, if they start doing weird psychological bullshit, then you deploy countermeasures to force them back to the facts. I don't see any weird psychological bullshit in their original comment, they're just describing their views.
Fine. I will ignore the snarky elements of this message and simply ask you
If you want to add something of value to this discussion inform me on what Harris would have actually done to help Ukraine or give them anything substantively different than what Trump is offering.
Fine. I will ignore the blatant attempt to redirect the conversation ignoring everything I said, and simply ask you.
How are you trying to get away with saying that Ukraine can't recapture any territory with the West's help, when they did exactly that in 2022? Why are you ignoring Trump actively trying to sabotage Ukraine aid and risk the semi-stalemate turning into an outright loss, which is a pretty fuckin' salient difference and what he got impeached for? And also, presumably, what he is teeing up to do again by offering unacceptable peace terms to Ukraine right now? Whose fault is it, solely and completely, that the Budapest Memorandum didn't assure Ukraine's security in this instance?
This was two years ago, I will also make clear I'm not opposed to them taking back the territory, it just doesn't seem like it's actually gonna happen on any timeframe, one year from now, two years from now, ten years from now. You can feel free to link me sources if you disagree with me saying this.
He signed off on giving them weapons, he's not sabotoging them that hard. I don't really see any compelling evidence that this "semi-stalemate" would change any time soon even if Biden was the president for the next 20 years, again you can feel free to link sources if you disagree with me saying this.
Maybe if you expect things to change from this "semi-stalemate" I just don't see why it would change from this.
Who is saying these terms are unacceptable Zelensky? I have not seen him say this in those terms. I'm not saying Ukraine should take a deal they find unacceptable, they should do whatever is in their interest.
I put the onus on the west for not enforcing it, otherwise why even offer this assurance, if they are not gonna actually follow through and stop Crimea being taken, Russia obviously also broke the deal, but if the deal is if one side will stop the other side if the other side breaks the deal and the other side breaks the deal and the one side says sorry we're not gonna do what is required to stop Crimea being taken, the deal was just vapor to begin with.
So it doesn't count anymore, two years is way too long from today.
So it's certainly assured what will happen ten years from now, based on what's happening today.
Got it. Makes perfect sense, I'm following so far.
You want me to give you a citation for what's going to happen ten years from now? Actually, no. You're telling me what's going to happen ten years from now, and demanding a citation otherwise, if I disagree.
Zelensky has said he wouldn't give up land before. That was a little while ago, and things can change. I doubt he would want to say anything about the peace agreement before it's negotiated. He has offered to swap land, Kursk for the occupied Ukrainian territories.
Mostly, what I mean by saying that is that I think it's unacceptable, for reasons pretty similar to the posted meme. I think that it's likely that the offer on the table for Ukraine is "accept Russia's terms, or no more aid" and they'll have to make a nasty choice between those alternatives. How they feel or what they will do, I don't know. But I'm fairly well convinced that those are the options they'll be choosing between, and that Harris wouldn't have done that. Can you give me a citation otherwise?
Russia agrees not to invade, then invades, and you put the onus on the West? I already pointed out that the "one side will stop the other side" is nowhere in the memorandum. I don't know why you are persistently pretending it is, or ignoring me pointing out that it isn't.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Budapest_Memorandum#Content
How many years until it counts
I was clearly asking you for sources that predict change to happen, not to say what is going to happen in the future. You are just being obtuse.
I think Harris would keep on doing exactly what Biden was doing, I never implied she wouldn't, I just don't think what Biden was doing past for the past few years has amounted to much.
Yes, why even pressure Ukraine and Kazakhstan to disarm if they weren't going to do anything if Russia decided to reneg. There was no reason to pressure them to disarm then if it wasn't implied they would provide security if Russia renegged. It's the worst deal of all time if that was the case.
Well to be fair, you still ignored all their other arguments and questions. Why don't you respond to those?
By arguments and questions do you mean their meta commentary on what I was saying. Because there is nothing to respond to there. What should I respond to someone telling me I am using rhetorical techniques to obscure what I am actually saying. They should have responded directly to what I was saying.
I made sure to go through your arguments point by point, and the only part you responded to initially was my meta-commentary at the end, after I was done with all my arguments and questions directly responding to what you were saying.
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I was not implying it did not, but I don't see compelling evidence they will get more of it back any time soon militarily Crimea or Donbass.
Snark and they were promised security for giving up their nukes as you detail, that is not "the whole controversy about them joining NATO" multiple NATO members would almost definitely veto them joining even if most of the other countries were okay with it, and no country is debating kicking out the countries that would veto Ukraine, so it's a non starter now.
I was simply referring to the past, I'm not personally advocating that assistance should be halted. I think if the US is unwilling to do more than send weapons a peace deal should be priotized because I don't think this "semi-stale-mate" is going to change and I think people dying is a bad thing that should stop. Especially when it isn't accomplishing anything meaningful.
snark
There you go. If you wanted a better response, maybe stop being so fucking snarky and smarmy.