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First time I get that remark...
Funny enough, growing up I got tired of hearing women complain their husbands/boyfriends/partners/men in general would always prioritize their own pleasure and pressure to have their interests fullfilled in detriment of the womans needs and expectations.
The dude is actively offering to pleasure the girl. Yes, she is in all of her right to refuse him and his advances, but damn, he is trying to be a bit considerate.
He could just go straight to the point and say he wanted to jump in her pants and be a complete idiot in doing so.
I believe this is when the kids say 'lol.'
No, he's offering to do what he wants to do. It's not universal that women want that; it's not universal that women want anyone to do that; it's not universal that women want that specific person to do that. This is how we got rape in Revenge of the Nerds because a bunch of guys went "yeah but she liked it, right?"
Reasserting this. I have a vulva and HATE receiving oral. I am up front about this - it is not taking time to pleasure me, it does not feel good to me. I have still had men whine, or start doing it anyway, or bitch about it.
Offering an unwanted sex act is not a kindness. Anyone who thinks that it is does not have the understanding of consent or human sexuality that is necessary to participate in sex.