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My mom died on Mother's Day this year. Really wanted to just skip the holidays. No tree and decorations. She liked to do them every year. Little present ideas. It was pretty quiet this year. But we made the best of it.
We just lost my fiance's mom 2 weeks ago. They're a very close, very big family and their mom was a true matriarch. She also didn't leave any plans for any of the complex situations she's left behind, so her and her sisters have been stuck in all this legal and business drama instead of being able to grieve, and they just lost their dad at the end of last year.
We just got engaged this summer and she was already heartbroken her dad wouldn't be there, and now she suddenly has no parents when she would talk to them every day. I'm not a big people person, but both her parents were really good to her and they all loved each other very much, and I feel really crushed this holiday season, so I can't begin to feel what they all must be feeling.
You have my sympathy. It stinks. I liked her parents more than most of my own family, and I'm sad I won't have anyone but my brother anymore to have good family time with.
I'm sure you had a really great mom, and I hope you get a proper chance to find the closure you need eventually and get to remember all the positive things again. I hope this was helpful, I feel I'm not great expressing emotional things, as I'm not used to feeling that close to many people, so please take this as my deepest sympathy and caring.
Thanks for sharing. I didn't expect anything from anyone. Just getting things off my chest. But I appreciate it. And my condolences as well.
I'm so sorry. This was my second Christmas since losing mine. She was always so excited about Christmas, Santa, decorations, all of it. Missing her made me want to do it a little more this year but I got started oto late. We still had a really good day - husband and kids picked up the slack.
Yeah the one thing I did do was attempt the cutout cookies she did. I found her recipe but it was very sparse in the directions. But they turned out great. So I'm glad I'll still have those. Apparently cream of tartar is what gave it that special acidic "Christmas feel" I've always wondered about over the years.