ID: Drawing of a duck billed platypus underwater, they're wearing a rainbow coloured t shirt and a pink bum-bag, and saying: "Ally is not something you can self-identify as, it's a title that you earn. Let your actions speak for themselves!"
Credit: Sophie Labelle
No, it's right. You can't form an alliance with somebody without their consent. If you want to be someone's ally, they're allowed to disagree.
And you post things with titles such as 'duck billed platypus'.
This isn't about purity, but you tell yourself whatever you need to to avoid engaging in the mild discomfort of unlearning and challenging your privilege, existing bias, and the status quo, I guess.. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
This is reinforcing their point though. The person you're responding to almost certainly supports you unconditionally. But you're at odds here because of a difference in experience/strife.
I recognize I have no horse in the race, but I do go out of my way to offer support. All I'm saying is your efforts are better spent fighting actual bigotry.
Then perhaps take the opportunity to sit down, shut up, and listen to those who do? Or are you convinced that your privilege makes you more informed than we are about our own situation and needs?
I can continue to sit on the sidelines, but it eats me up inside seeing so much hate. I genuinely want to offer any help I can. I'm horrified by what the GOP are pushing in this country, actively vote against it, and support causes where I can. The GOP will pat each other on the back while they send anyone woker than a blonde white Christian man to the death camps. Meanwhile a progressive will point out that their blind unity is a dangerous threat and be set upon by those they fundamentally agree with.
I generally don't join these conversations, but I do think the first comment in this tree has merit. I also apologize for causing you any more stress, it was definitely not my intent.