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Are men as intimate with there friends as girls are? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 1 month ago by SpaceFox@lemmy.ml to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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I've had female friends and I've had male friends but for some reason I've noticed that females are more intimate and close to there friends then males are. Is this true for all male friends?

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[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.world 2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I share your sentiment, whenever one of my aunts calls me a '"good-looking boy," my mid-30s heart warms up.

In addition, we will all mature only when we realise that we never stop being children in one way or another. Plus why would anyone want to give that up? One of the few nuggets of genuine joy and curiosity that's still left for us to own.

[–] andrewrgross@slrpnk.net 2 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

I think what you and @mossyfeathers@MossyFeathers@pawb.social are picking up on is that youth-coded descriptors are often terms of endearment. They're often used flirtatiously and towards people of whom you feel protective.

Conversely, adult names imply responsibility. Is it a problem to describe men in a way that implies responsibility and women in a way that implies protectiveness? Not necessarily.

I just think this stuff is linguistically interesting. I think it's more grammatically typical to use equivalent terms to create parallel construction when comparing the sexes. Again, no judgment is intended.