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People who haven't really resumed socializing at levels they used to, people who lost the capacity to regulate during interpersonal interactions, people who lost trust in others... I encounter lots of partial returners out there

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[–] Nougat@fedia.io 191 points 6 days ago (6 children)

I'll be honest, the lockdowns were awesome for me. "Now you bitches get to see how I live."

And the mad increase of online ordering, no contact pickup, and how people aren't crawling up your ass in line at the grocery store anymore? I could not have hoped for better.

[–] CaptDust@sh.itjust.works 116 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Gods do I miss social distance lines

[–] Mac@mander.xyz 49 points 6 days ago

I miss having free time without the impending pressure to do things.

[–] ininewcrow@lemmy.ca 35 points 6 days ago* (last edited 6 days ago) (1 children)

I'm health wise OK but my wife isn't for the rest of her life so I have to take precautions everywhere. I don't mind because I really don't like dealing with people anyway.

I do grocery pickup and go inside the store maybe four or five times a year now.

I haven't been to the inside of a restaurant in over three years, we use patios and sidewalk tables outdoors.

I specifically only ever use gas stations where you pay at the pump.

I haven't been to a mall or indoor space with people in years now.

I order everything else to my door.

I really don't miss dealing with people and now find it completely weird and disorienting to deal with people in public now.

[–] classic@fedia.io 10 points 5 days ago

now find it completely weird and disorienting to deal with people in public now.

This is what I've been hearing (and experienced). And that it's not a preference, it's more that the nervous system has struggled to recalibrate; or there was not enough opportunity for it to do so and that has led to a feedback loop

[–] b161@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 5 days ago

😌 It truly was the good old days when we just had a global pandemic to worry about.

[–] classic@fedia.io 8 points 6 days ago (1 children)

Yeah it was certainly a net positive for some. Of course this post isn't a criticism of those that enjoyed it, or were unaffected by it. But there is a sort of lost generation group, so to speak, too. That includes younger people who feel maladroit or disconnected in a way that they tie to that period. People who already struggled to socialize and the period made it worse enough that they never recovered

[–] LNRDrone@sopuli.xyz 6 points 5 days ago (1 children)

Yeah my youngest kid was on the middle of her second school year when the lockdown started. She was so anxious around people when in person school started again. She's gotten somewhat better in the past couple years, but still not quite the same.

[–] classic@fedia.io 5 points 5 days ago

Yes some kids I know, it just sort of became how they identify: shy, more anxious

[–] raynethackery@lemmy.world 4 points 5 days ago

I go out but I do most of my big shopping as delivery. I just can't bring myself to go to Walmart very often. Most of my little shopping is at dollar stores. You know, the little things we used to get at what we used to call "milk stores."

[–] rottingleaf@lemmy.world 3 points 5 days ago

The impostor syndrome and such are crazy though, when working remotely from my dust and cockroaches box.