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‘It’s quite soul-destroying’: how we fell out of love with dating apps::For a decade, apps have dominated dating. But now singles are growing tired of swiping and are looking for new ways to meet people – or reverting to old ones

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[–] Clbull@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Coming from somebody in their early thirties who has had nothing but atrocious luck with women in general, I've mentally checked out of dating.

Every dating app is now a carbon-copy of Tinder where you can't pull a lady unless you look like a fucking Chippendale, are above 5'11" tall, have your own property and are sufficiently wealthy. It also doesn't help that Match Group hold a virtual monopoly over the market, with Bumble as their only credible competition. They literally profiteer from making the experience as miserable as possible so they can sucker you into paying a £40/month subscription.

Match also put the bare minimum into moderating and policing their apps. The sheer volume of love scammers, fake users and spammers shilling OnlyFans pages is massive, and it feels like they really couldn't give a shit about enforcing their own rules.

Online dating really is that soul-destroying, and the longer I spend trying to use any app, the less it surprises me that the incel, MGTOW and red pill communities are growing, and that people like Andrew Tate and Sneako have such a huge following despite being such garbage human beings.

At the same time I wish there was a better alternative.