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Showerthoughts

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A "Showerthought" is a simple term used to describe the thoughts that pop into your head while you're doing everyday things like taking a shower, driving, or just daydreaming. A showerthought should offer a unique perspective on an ordinary part of life.

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A lot less annoying then endlessly filtering content by community and user

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[–] Vinny_93@lemmy.world 7 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I think it's pretty much impossible to fully get out of filter bubbles, but the only way to really get every view on everything is to be part of everything mainstream AND everything more underground. Personally, I don't feel the need to associate with any other social media. I think toxicity differs from being exposed to a different point of view.

Reddit has had the problem for years that if you tried to make a point that slightly differed from the hive mind's opinion, however eloquently you would put it, everyone would just pile on with their 'akshually' mentality and not even be open to any other viewpoint than their own.

And that's toxicity without even mentioning folks that would just say 'no' followed by hateful language.

I feel Lemmy is a far kinder, more balanced community where you can have a polite discussion about stuff. And OP is right, if a certain instance shows its users can't behave or have such different views than your own, you can just make them go away and enjoy the rest of Lemmy.

I just hope those users don't defederate from the rest of us so at some point they will have a more nuanced view of things.

[–] ContrarianTrail@lemm.ee 5 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I feel Lemmy is a far kinder, more balanced community where you can have a polite discussion about stuff.

My experience has been much closer to what you described reddit to be. Lemmy is extremely unwelcoming of differing opinions.

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

Disagreeing with your perspective is easy because it’s utterly misguided. Lemmy is a paragon of inclusivity, welcoming all opinions as long as they adhere to basic decency. The platform thrives on a diverse range of ideologies, from anti-capitalist to anarchist, fostering a rich tapestry of debate and discussion. If you find it unwelcoming, maybe it’s because you can't handle being called out for having incorrect views. ^(/s)

[–] ContrarianTrail@lemm.ee 1 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

You're free to go thru my comment history, find one with lots of downvotes and point out to me where I wasn't 'adhering to basic decency.'

[–] TherapyGary@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Are you one of today's lucky 10,000 in learning what /s means?

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 2 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago)

Damn those are actually some great thoughts imho - like https://lemm.ee/post/42493021. Fwiw I would have upvoted that one if I had seen it (I'm purposely not subscribed to showerthoughts, so I only see the ones that hit All).

Likewise, I see that Lemmy has a bit of a hive mind issue. At the same time it has an enormous toxicity issue, e.g. it is hexbear's own self-stated purpose for existence, and they refuse to limit their "dunk" sessions to those who consent to such, continuing beyond the boundaries of their own communities and instance. So we simultaneously would enjoy greater diversity of opinions while at the same time we have too much trolling happening to make that possible.

By the latter I mean that modding efforts seem one of the primary limiting factors here - e.g. I used to be a mod myself for two small gaming communities in Reddit but there's no way I'm doing that here. Reddit was far more toxic overall, but Lemmy has greater swings of both maximum friendliness (& that overall) while also significantly worse toxicity allowed in certain corners of the Fediverse.

Anyway, one possibility is that your posts merely went out to the wrong audience - as I said, *I* would have really enjoyed the aforementioned post, and upvoted and commented in it, if I had known it existed, and surely while those of us who enjoy such may be more rare than common across the Fediverse, we aren't entirely non-existent either?

This is where having a larger userbase, to allow such niche interests to flourish more readily, could help. Then again, we already trend more towards deeper conversations than are possible on Reddit anymore, so maybe it's doable here?

If you end up starting a community to put such thoughts into, I would love to join it?

[–] OpenStars@piefed.social 1 points 3 weeks ago

I have already personally defederated from the likes of hexbear.net (my prior instance had not done that) and lemmy.ml - the latter I even switched instances specifically to be able to do (although now that I'm here I'm finding it amazing what features are here that Lemmy lacks, like Categories on top of Communities).

There is a difference between a valid point of view, presented in good faith, vs... the opposite of that, masquerading itself as a merely "different POV". In essence, while I am aware that I blocked many good people and therefore some good content, I decided that it was a good trade-off for me to be able to halt the flood of what is essentially spam sent out to the Fediverse from those instances.

I would rather see receipt of such spam be opt-in rather than have to find a way to opt-out, but it is what it is. At which point yes, according to this perspective at least, under this set of value judgements, then it is helpful that so many of the spammers congregate into one place making that process easier. At the expense of others who are now blocked as well, having done or even intended no wrong but being caught up in that war of ideologies. We live in a society though and our actions impact others, whether we like or even acknowledge that or not.