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[–] fallentides@lemmy.one 47 points 6 days ago (3 children)

We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts. That’s all I’m here to do anyways. Historically, prly religion upholding the patriarch; same difference. Hide them elbows and ankles!

[–] pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 33 points 6 days ago (3 children)

As a man, I wish clothes would make me feel desirable. I have asked my girlfriend which clothes she would like to see me in, but she says it's not about the clothes. That it doesn't matter. It's more about what I do. So I just dress in plain, comfortable, practical clothes which makes me, well, practical. Useful. I often wish I had options to just be desired for my body, without the pressure to achieve this or that to be desirable. It's a source of sadness for me.

[–] greedytacothief@lemmy.world 11 points 5 days ago (2 children)

I mean, looking like you know what you're doing, looking confident doesn't mean you have to dress plain.

Also I am sure gym bros will complement you on your body. Kind of like how as a straight man I only get compliments on my facial hair from other men. Look for validation from your friends not randos

[–] USSEthernet@startrek.website 3 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Lop no joke, all I get is "nice beard" from other dudes.

[–] pmk@lemmy.sdf.org 3 points 5 days ago (1 children)

True, I don't have to dress plain, but if clothes make no difference for her, I just wear what I feel most comfortable in. I know how I react when I see her in yoga pants, and I wish I had the option to affect her similarly through clothing.

Comfort can be about how you look. I have some clothes that are super comfortable, but if I wore them out in public I would be arrested because I look like a drug dealer. Find something comfy in the way that it reflects how you want to be seen

[–] Gebruikersnaam@lemmy.ml 3 points 5 days ago

I felt like this as well, but it turns out it was gender dysphoria for me all along. Men being completely invisible is one of the hardest parts of being masc.

I mean, I'm 30 and a non traditional college student. If the weather is agreeable, I have a few nice sweaters that I'll wear with an undershirt, dark jeans, and I've got a pair of Loake boots that are very nice.

I feel GREAT when I dress like that, and get quite a few glances throughout the day. Also my wife eyeballs me as I leave the house.

[–] doublepepperoni@hexbear.net 22 points 6 days ago (2 children)

We ladies must look desirable; the fashion styles changed to accentuate my hips and my tits, my baby making parts.

Bring back ostentatious codpieces for the dudes

Bring back ostentatious codpieces for the dudes

They never went away in my house.

[–] Flyberius@hexbear.net 1 points 5 days ago

And slashed pantaloons

Will you marry me?