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What did you do to survive the night of/after a breakup? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by voidhearts@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

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[–] feedum_sneedson@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Did that for two years after the last relationship broke down. Tried again, immediately hurt. I want to love somebody, with everything that involves.

[–] lightnsfw@reddthat.com 2 points 1 year ago

You can. My point was that in the mean time you can remember that being in a relationship isn't always so great so you don't fixate on the loneliness so much and can instead be productive. It also helps you to not give off an air of desperation when you meet new women if you approach them as you would anyone else instead of only as potential romantic partners (if you are prone to that).