Asklemmy

Hey, I am im the same position, 2 months ago my gf of 7 years broke up and said she would like to stay friends because she still likes me as a person. DON'T DO IT! As much as you may want to keep your ex in your life, and as much you still love your ex and don't want to hurt them, you have to put yourself first now. You are the one who was hurt the most here and you have to take care of your healing. First step for that is to tell your ex exactly that, and that you will block them from now on. If it helps, then think that this may only be temporary, maybe in some months or a year or whenever you can open contact again. But for the Tims being the most important thing is that you don't hear from them because that only reopens your wounds. A stupid way to trick your brain stick to no contact: Mark each day without contact in your calendar, and set goals like " 1 week without contact", "1 month without conctact" etc where you will get yourself a treat once you managed to achieve them. When you are at a low point where you are really sad and lonely and want to contact your ex (this will happen, trust me), the thought of "ruining your streak" will make you think twice if you really want to do it. Its really stupid but it works for me. As I said, my gf broke up 2 months ago but I only started blocking her about 5 weeks ago, and with this trick I managed to not relapse once. Hang in there :)