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What did you do to survive the night of/after a breakup? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by voidhearts@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

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[–] Freesiana@lemmy.world 16 points 1 year ago (2 children)

Talking to my family and hugging my cats, it sound silly but i felt that my cats knew that i was hurting, so they were extra caring. It will take time to heal, but it will get better.

[–] CluelessDude@lemmy.zip 9 points 1 year ago

The little fur ball bastards do seem to know this sort of stuf, like they can sense it, hugging them makes stuff feel better the purring is therapeutic.

[–] pingveno@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hear this all the time, that pets can sense anguish and try to comfort you. It makes me miss having the opportunity to have had a pet, despite the care needed.

On the flip side, even standoffish pets can have a change of demeanor under poor circumstances. One person was talking about when her cat who had never even been friendly towards her was dying, it sought her out. The cat was terrified, so they went to the one place where they felt safe. The person telling the story felt oddly comforted that the cat ultimately did have some feelings for her.

[–] Freesiana@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago

Yeah i had older cat and she was so playful and extra cuddly one morning, but late evening i found her unable to move. She had a blood clot and there was nothing to do to save her, but i like to think she had a wonderful life. Pets can be truly ray of sunshine when you are feeling down☺️ ofc it always hurt when your pet dies, but their love and caring is genuine.