Yeah, my mom was very violent, my second step dad as well. I remember the "look what you made me do". The more I got beaten, the more my behaviour got worse.

I got placed into a foster home at 14 by childrens law (kinderrechter) because I came to school with bruises and black eyes, so my parents now are not welcome in my house or anywhere near my son...although they want to reconcile.

I have never beaten my kid and he is here at almost 20, loving his parents and doing alright. I learned from my upbringing never to beat my kid.

I am still seeing a shrink, depression from all that 40 years later. Fuck you if you beat your kids. You can set them straight by other means by taking away privileges, talking to them in a quite and composed manner, and show them ways how to do better.

[–] suburban_hillbilly@lemmy.ml 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don't think the paper is disputing the harm of abusively beating the shit out of your kids.

[–] irish_link@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I think kindenough is making a point about how things can change easily. Its easy to go from "I am punishing my kid" to abuse in a split second and you may not know the difference especial if you don't/can't reflect on what happened. A small change over time will go unnoticed. I big change can go unnoticed if you are not watching.

[–] suburban_hillbilly@lemmy.ml 2 points 20 hours ago

Nowhere in the entire post does it say anything like this.