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What did you do to survive the night of/after a breakup? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by voidhearts@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

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[–] lvxferre@lemmy.ml 9 points 1 year ago (1 children)

What I did? Vodka. It's always vodka.

What I recommend? Find something to distract yourself. Time heals, although not completely; it's often like a physical cut, you might get some scar that itches from time to time but it won't be as painful as the fresh wound.

[–] currawong@lemmy.ml 2 points 1 year ago

Psychic pain and physical pain use the same receptors. So antalgics like paracetamol/acetaminophen work too. You won't miraculously forget the pain but it'll take a bit of the edge of it.