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When my first wife walked out, I felt similar. The way I got through is to remember that everything is temporary, including the pain you feel. You will feel better in the future.
Now I’m with someone who’s much better for me, and this will happen to you too. You may not believe it, but it’s true. The best person for you is the one you will end up with, and they’re still out there. You just have to remember that the future holds that for you.
Another thing that really helped me was leaning on my friends. If you have some really close friends, don’t be afraid to ask them for support.
And cry. It sounds weird, but crying, like big super wailing tears of ugly crying, will help you feel better. Crying for like 20 minutes will make you feel a lot better than holding it in for 2 days.
This. Crying is a pressure release and you should cry often. It's when the crying stops helping that you should be worried and look into therapy.