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What did you do to survive the night of/after a breakup? (lemm.ee)

submitted 1 year ago by voidhearts@lemm.ee to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Boyfriend of 2 years (best friend of 6) just told me he’s started seeing someone else. No discussion. Just ghosted me for a week and hit me with this news. Thought he was my soulmate, lmao. I feel like someone just ripped out my insides. Just turned 31 this year, this shit is not any easier than when I was a teenager.

How did you make it through that first night? The second? The third? Is it really just time? I feel like my body is too old to survive another heartbreak.

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[–] GlitterInfection@lemmy.world 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I leaned on as many friends as I could. Break ups are universally difficult and even friends you might not have seen in a while tend to have empathy and love to spare to help you get through this.

I also leaned on as much self care stuff as I could. I take long baths, sleep a lot, and take an appropriate amount of time off from work as sick time to do things.

Also, block your ex and purge his stuff from your life as fast as possible. That's usually the best option if he pulled something like he did here.

I'm sorry you're going through it. Remember to grieve and that grief isn't a linear process. You'll have good and bad days, but you can get through to the other side stronger.

[–] voidhearts@lemm.ee 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I plan to. It sucks because we’ve also been working closely together on a lot of dream projects and I have to decide whether to give that up and destroy what we built, or stick around and torture myself and my sanity. I can’t make that decision.

[–] GlitterInfection@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

You don't have to make that decision until you're ready.

[–] gmate8@lemmy.ml 0 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

Maybe changing your POV could help save the dream projects…