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You have to be ok with believing that you're not annoying others when talking about yourself and asking about them. And you have to do it in a not-creepy way. I haven't quite figured it out yet.
The creeper paradox: the harder you try not to be, the more you appear to be.
Redefine creepy as 'surpressing emotions'. When you surpress the awareness of surpressing emotions, then you surpress even more, so you appear to be more creepy.