OK so if you feel Lemmy has been trending towards hostility in the past weeks ppease here me out, interact in the comments but keep it civil.
Lemmy vs Reddit
We all had our reasons to move to Lemmy. What I remember clearly from the beginning of the summer was that we were all praising the tone. Over the years, Reddit has become increasingly toxic - most of all in the comment section. To me, that was what made Lemmy special. Even with less content, the general vobe was what made me come back every time.
clash of the clans
Due to the nature of the fediverse, we get to interact with people with different backgrounds and dofferent ideas. Potentially an incredibly enriching experience for everyone. Anti-defed lemmings defend staying federated with everyone for that precise reason, which I really get. But lately the vibe has turned sour. Every post that has the slightest political undertone becomes this big us-vs-them show. Please stop
discussion vs. shitshow
I am not arguing for stopping discussing our opinions. I also get the whole they don’t have downvotes thing. But can we please treat eachother with dignity, and when writing comments say ‘I believe’ or ‘in my opinion’ instead of ‘you all this or that’?
I think this is the only way forward if we want to prevent everyone from personally blocking a lot of instances in the furure.
I'm new to Lemmy but it just feels more like Reddit in the sense that if you're not part of the "hive mind", then you're just told to "go away" instead of participating in actual discussion.
It's caused me to post less than when I initially joined. There's not as much activity on Lemmy than on the Reddit equivalent in the main "channel" I read. So I've found myself wandering back to Reddit but I don't post or comment much there either.
Yeah a couple of months ago a lot of lemmings were talking about how they were commenting a lot here while they never did on Reddit. I really think there has been a big shift going on and that has been an immense loss for the platform.
Before I used to make a few comments a day, which is a lot for me, but now I find myself commenting less and less. The whole vibe is really different from a month ago. When I joined the fediverse I hoped we could make something better than reddit, and I still do, but there has been a rise in toxicity recently. Arguments are a good thing but most of the time they just result in insults being thrown.
I think a part of it is the same old "normies are invading our community." A bunch of the queer old guard of fedi are having to dent the new kids into shape.
I'm seeing a lot more centrist takes than I did before, and we all know what that leads to
You want to do what to the kids now?
For me that's one of the things from Reddit, the other was the niche subs!
The whole political algorithm driven doom scrolling dopamine reward thing Reddit pushed is actually what I want to go away from.
I want a tech sub without billionaire drama but with the newest PCB for raspberry, the new CPUs, tests and quality posts, "SSD only or does HDD still have a place for the usual gamer?", even mice & keyboards.
I'd like a news sub without the same inclination of not talking about People (us presidents, rich people, known people, ...) but that treats news.
And a headphone sub I can visit every 6 months someone in the family needs a new pair, and giving my feedback ofc.
Fountain pens, longevity, comics, art, ...
That what's I'm hoping for here, small(ish) niche subs run by people interested in the subject.
I think part of this problem is that the USA has split more or less into two different cultures that have developed different languages to the point that they don't even understand each other and what seems a rational argument in one language is perceived as hate speech in the other.
Europe is going into the same direction but it's not as extreme yet.
I'm finding it's the opposite. Depending on what thread I stumble into I'll get wildly different takes