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Would a federated dating site work well? What would it look like? (startrek.website)

submitted 1 year ago by swab148@startrek.website to c/asklemmy@lemmy.ml

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Basically title, every bit of online dating nowadays is either Match or Meta, and we're all about breaking corporate chains right?

So these are the thoughts I had:

Matches based on simple user selection: age range, lifestyle, hobbies etc. None of that dumb algorithm stuff that makes you reset your profile every month.
ActivityPub protocol so that anyone can run their own instance, but can also be blocked if anything heinous happens.
E2EE for messaging (and anything else if it's possible).
Someone wrote an open-source anti-CSAM script for Lemmy recently, I hope we could adapt that to our use.
Just, like, everyone have a good time on this app, we're here for love lol

I am not a coder, so I would have no idea how to do this, but I wonder about the interest in such a creation. Maybe some of you out there could make something I could use to get a date (pls).

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[–] Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world 39 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I think people need to go outside and interact with each other in person. That's the best way to date.

[–] flubba86@lemmy.world 29 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

It's true. At 28 I'd been dateless for 10 years, doing the sad neckbeard incel thing. One day a friend of a friend received two free tickets to a speed dating event. He didn't want to go, but he said he would go if someone else went with him for moral support. In a very out-of-character move for me, I volunteered and went along with him. It was the first time in over 5 years I'd been to a bar. We did 5 minute dates with 15 different women. It was the most women I've spoken to in one night in my whole life. There was only one candidate I connected with, I submitted her as a match. The next day I got an email saying that she had matched with me too! I got her email, and chatted via email for about 6 weeks, then organised to go on a real date. The rest is history from there, we're coming up to our 10th wedding anniversary.

So yes, going outside, interacting with people, it works. Its not a trick guys.

[–] ryannathans@aussie.zone 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

That's not "going outside", that's going to IRL tinder

[–] some_guy@lemmy.world 3 points 1 year ago

How do you think he got there? Tunnels?

[–] Sabata11792@kbin.social 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

The people I'm interested in dating would pay to step into a human sized microwave before going outside.

[–] Oyster_Lust@lemmy.world 1 points 1 year ago

Do they think that will prevent COVID?

[–] krimsonbun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 1 year ago

the true federated dating app, touching grass